Excerpts from Student Of Life - 02 - Life is an investment

World is beautiful. People see the world with their experiences. Experiences may be bad but not the world. World is as it is. We must stop blaming others. First accept our self, whatever we are- good , bad , ugly. All is ours.

People want to see things on their own. What does it mean? We don't trust anyone!

Why don't we trust others? What makes us think others are decepting?

Why we are not able to believe? Is it not that we have notions? We have wounds, hurt as references, which are blocking us. What makes us derive to this conclusion that all others are bad.

 We have  approved ourselves to stick to this one point formula.

"I will believe with my own knowledge, I wont approve, I DON'T accept".

If that is right, then WHY cant we stay by ourselves?

Why do we roam so much, Why we are unable to finalise by ourselves? why we seek new things all the time? Why we remain dissatisfied? DO WE ACCEPT OUR SELF?

We are rejecting everything, then what is right? so the whole world is wrong? seriously wrong?

how much negativity it is!!.

 

Why things come to us, its because of HIM, ALL THE TIMES. WE or I doesn't exist in reality.

But all the times we boast of ourselves as if we are dissatisfied.

Who is dissatisfied? Who wanna accept or reject?

Who is there other than mind or its recordings of previous experiences? or the collection of such experiences? It is called EGO.

Its like a memorial standing erect always in between two people, between world and US.

When both are memorials, standing up right , why would they meet?

Both can be like " I know better than you".

So there is no relationship, no manners, no etiquette, no bond, no love, no humility, no compassion , no sensitivity towards others' feelings or theirs, which also consists of emotions.

Its HEART which can reach beyond mind.

When we talk with heart, without bias, without selfish hidden agendas, without seeking anything or without any expectations, we just be there with them , Why would that language not reach?

It may reach to mind. If it reaches to mind, it will start judging, show doubts, seeing the person who was different before and now doing something different, it gets suspicious, doubts, expectations, greed, sabotage, deceit,cleverness, all comes in to picture. Heart can reach heart in flip second, NOTHING it seeks IN RETURN, yet we feel FULFILLED.

That is love. That is loving.

 

Such things where do we find. We find at sant ashram( Buddha, sant ashram, maharishi, saint)

He only directs us properly. Some rishi mahatma only can show mercy and let us to see the way.

How to see things, how to behave, what to expect, what not to expect, where to show individuality, where not to, what is responsibility, a duty is, what is not , what is lord, what is not, what is good, what is bad, how to live in this world, how we should be confined to ourselves

why we should not boast ourselves, why we show openly our love towards lord, not the earthly things.

If you show your diamond necklace in a party, what would be the result?

If you sing bhajan in a temple, what would be the result?

Both the things you show. yet both are showing. But both the results would be severely different.

Saint would be telling good and bad at all the times, also show learning in that also.

Physical pleasures is only just enjoying senses and reap Karma phalam, which is due in next birth or who knows this birth if we repeatedly do the same things, OUR POT OF SIN would be full and it would break now only in this birth. If some one reach saint and they revert the mind pattern, learn the mistakes, vow not to repeat it, then the pot of sin would not be filled.

whatever was there it would be at bottom. On top of that goodness would fill .

So whatever be there, it would be little and would be in next birth and if there is mercy of lord, who knows the small karma phalam would get burned and nothing left .

If he is pleased by the devotion, so next birth would be spotless.

 

So where would we learn such things - from a renunciated person only.

He only could  let us know how to be humble, how to be compassionate, how to be sensitive to others feelings. Yes, others are not. But we are knowing that they are not knowing. Hence who should be humble? - the person who is knowing. Then he have ability. People say he can resist, he got strength, he got something, he is tough inside. If we reciprocate like them, its like dog fight in streets. We are not animals.We are humans. Yes, we should reciprocate IN LOVE, IN GOODNESS, IN POSITIVITY, IN CREATIVITY, IN HARMONY, IN HELPING OTHERS. We all are bonded.

But whatever we can help others, we can do. ( Like in swaraga, naraka story - where people feed others with their hands tied). But we can feed to those WHO KNOWS that their hands are tied, who has awareness, or in a way we can say - a practitioner.

 

Its not for in general. If we feed them, they will run away. We would wonder, " I am feeding you, I am giving goodness, why are u so lethargic, why are u so lazy, you are busy is it?".

In return what would they say?. " I am tired, I have no time and all the notions about the person who is feeding pops up" . I need to see my things I better understand. My things, my way, my , mine, I , me . We accumulate so much . Its a big reservoir, that we think we are. But that is nothing , no use. It has limited use, to accumulate possession.

Accumulating possession also is by cheating others. When we observe during accumulating, we have to hurt someone to possess that. There is nothing that we can accumulate or possess which is without hurts, without cheating, without deceit, lies. All things which are our possession are laid on this foundation and we think these things would benefit us. People say its for our kids and those kids get education from that money which is been accumulated in that way. In return parents get kicks and they wonder. Could not know the basic subtle foundation. We think we are saving pies. If its hurting others, if its snatched from others, wrongly earned, duping others, or not from hard work, from sweat,

how could we think that will benefit us?

How goodness could come out of it?

Why it will give fruits of wisdom? when we sow seeds of suffering.

What we sow , so we reap.

All sorts of accumulation including goodness is also waste.

All leads to attachment and attachment is death.

Then how are we going to survive these demonic minds that will kill us for nothing?.

Hence sant says - "Middle Way".

Don't be too good nor too bad. Accumulate for your needs.

Accumulate from your hard work. No short cuts, no gambling, no wasting in wine, luxuries.

Accumulate to raise children, for your old age and continuation of goodness.

PASS IT ON TO THEM , HOW YOU DEFEATED BETAAL( NEGATIVE FORCES) AND BECAME VIKRAM( POSITIVE FORCES/POSITIVITY).

They also have to face betaal in this world. Its in the mind, mind voices.

Who can say about it- The one who conquered can say it.

or the one who in process can say theory and give example of the one who did it.

At any cost GOODNESS MUST PREVAIL.

At least in next birth we would be born spotless.

Life is an investment, says mentorji.  "Jeevan ka lakshya mukthi nahi , nivesh hai!"

Life is not a salvation to be saved out of the world, but it is an investment to be used in the world.

 

Live controlled, relaxed life , no matter how fast the pace may be.

Excerpts from Student Of Life -01- Mind Training.

"Life is all about learning. Life is beautiful, when we realise it". 

One must KNOW first, TO SEE, TO UNDERSTAND, TO EXPERIENCE, TO REALISE. 

We all behave according to our Mind. Mind suggests based on our perceptions, beliefs, past experiences, illusions, ideas. To SEE reality, one must remove the goggles( perceptions, illusions, etc).

Mind is a great tool , which can be our friend or an enemy,  based on the training given to it.

Below is the excerpt from Student of life. We may all get a query, " Who is Student of life? ".

Just like a medical student, who learns medicine, just like an engineering student, who acquires the knowledge of engineering, in chosen stream, just like all other students, " A STUDENT OF LIFE  LEARNS LIFE and THERE IS NO PARTICULAR PERIOD THAT HE COMPLETES HIS COURSE, HE KEEPS ON LEARNING TILL THE END OF LIFE AND LIFE, IT HAS NO END. From  every experience he learns, he acquires knowledge, he understands reality. He realises what is real and what is not.

In this , its been discussed about Mind Training.

Talking about being non organised, lazy, he said, " Its not about memory thing, its about training given to our mind". That it is okay to be lazy or non organised, its our own suggestion. If nobody reminds us, it will continue. Possibly 2 things can happen. One, somebody will do and scold us for not doing or two we counter them back with their mistakes that they have done,  for reminding us, for pointing our mistakes, so that its so strong, they will never remind us again. Both the things are dangerous, there is no learning.

We do not know the fault and where it is, its not the issue of fixing. We are suggesting mind that its okay,we still can manage. So we learn to manage people and not the issue, NOT FIXING the issue.

Managing is different and fixing is different, not knowing the issue.  It is not managing the issue, its managing people. This applies everywhere in our life.Its always I feel, I feel, kind of, wrongly trained mind, unable to see the truth. We should balance our mind , should feel as well as move with facts. Ultimately, its mind,  not heart. Soul or heart is different from mind.

For survival, we need logic, analytics, food. Food comes from work, work comes from logical understanding. All needs to deal with others, say from labour to ruler. All needs to deal with people.

We are social beings, not stand alone entity, we are interdependent. So we need to learn people skills, how to talk, how to communicate by understanding others.  All are not alike, only a few are. We need to live with those whom we don't love, feel or connect. We are dependent for external things.

We are not for internal things, for internal growth or for shedding blocks. We are not dependent on external things for internal peace. We should not be affected by external environment. We should be affected only by internal mind, which is continuously talking to us, judging based on past feelings. It seeks those. We are affected by that  and seek those outside , external. How can we? We need to find it, if we wanna match it, this is me, so we wanna find like me. Then we will become happy, but soon you will find , neither we or they are the same, because mind never stays alike . It gets bored by monotonous things. It needs entertainment always.

 That's why saints have developed different methods to cool off. Developed ability to stay away, stay in pure form of mind without prejudices.

*Then we get strength , full strength, the power , confidence comes within.

*We don't need anyone advice also, we can spot egos, we can spot gestures.

*We can understand who are the cheaters, we are like awake.

*Even if we don't know , we could know whom should we ask, where to find, its not that whom we feel we ask them .

*We go and ask appropriate person, that means, we know who is appropriate.

 So that type of mind only comes when we know what is peace or when we identify yes this is the state called non indulging mind. Now we are indulgent. We are seeing through indriyas we are seeing through perceptions. We are not seeing as it is. When we are not biased, then only we can see it.

When we talk to some one , we stay away, we observe them like a picture. So we can see their eyes, their gestures, hand movements, the way they sit, the way they use words, we don't become impulsive.

We should not be making comments. We should be observant, then only we know how they are. We are non attached. The state of being Non attached is called Sanyasi. He don't go to jungle. He don't indulge in to what others are doing with mind.  He stays calm, non attached in to his being. It does not mean he becomes insensitive, in fact he would become compassionate, he does things for the needful, he can know who is needy, because he can know it , he can see it what is happening, others cannot as they are indulged, they judge it .

That is mind training.

All should be Sanyasi so that

*We can love people,  we can understand people.

* We can live peaceful as we can give space to all, because we are non indulgent.

* We don't accumulate more than we need.

*We don't speak bad words to hurt. We are considerate to the needy and help.

* We can stay positive, because faith increases 1000 times.

So all those things happen when we could know that we are not dependent on mind for our survival.

There is life beyond mind also. There is heart. Mind is only an operator. Its interface for heart. 

It has virus in it. What to, what not to , it doesn't understand. So when it is virus free, it speaks heart's language. So its same as heart. Then it reaches others.

People say "Wow, it reaches, I can understand you, ONLY YOU, it reaches me" .

It comes with practice, not just like that. It needs lots of practice .

What is that practice?

- It is non indulgence, non reactive, having faith inside, of course with the touch of lord.

What do you choose? - Love or Fear!

Man's power of choice enables him to think like an angel or a devil, a king or a slave, whatever he chooses, mind will create and manifest.

- Frederick Bailes 

Every incident gives us experiences, which serves as learning. We all have positivity and negativity within us. It depends on us to choose what we let to dominate or manifest, defining us.Love(the positive, brighter side) and fear(the negative, darker side) both reside in the same person and their natures are so different. Love always tries to make things better and better till it is at its best. Fear always tries to find ways to block or escape.To enjoy better results, all it requires is to amend our choices, that we make. Does it really matter what do we choose? I think yes.

Here is one such experience which supports the view.

Sometime back, I was shared a very beautiful, meaningful song(which I understand now, by then it was a nice song with great beats), " I CHOOSE LOVE" - by Shawn Gallaway. With the trust and love I was showered with, I could dare to attempt singing the song. It was Love, that made it comfortable and overcome  fears.

Below is the conversation between both, love and fear, in a situation, where Love Bird asks Fear Bird to sing the same song and to make it better, it gives Audacity, a s/w. I have expressed their natures in a form of a story, with two characters, love bird and fear bird( love and fear, themselves),where finally FEAR IS DEFEATED BY LOVE.

All the italics, inside the brackets are mind voices(the thoughts that pops up in the mind), the quotes are the dialogues between love and fear, the statements are the narration.
                                                   
Love Bird:" Hey u can make it better, I will let you know a software, Audacity. You can do better things with that." said in  its high spirits.
Fear Bird:(What?? Audacity? Oh no , technology. I am so allergic and its not my comfort zone,its          unknown). Thinking so in its mind yet it tweeted,  "Thanks.will surely do it."
Love Bird:"Take your time".
Fear Bird: "Okay". ( it opens Audacity to learn, all is Greek and Latin, cant even read English,                nothing goes inside mind , closes the s/w. Will do it tomorrow).
Love Bird: keeps quiet and it waits .
Fear Bird: I have to learn Audacity,  ( Oh no. not today, I have something important to do, may be  tomorrow  I will learn. and TOMORROW NEVER COMES).
Love Bird:It waits. It still has got hope. It did not judge. It could understand the issue. It still gives time.
Fear Bird: Its getting bigger now, as it could not learn and time is flying by.
Love Bird: After many months, it gives a small reminder very gently. " Hey I am waiting for your song" .
Fear Bird: Could not answer heads up, as its guilty. " Ya . I remember , I will do", said in a low voice.
Love Bird: After sometime, it reminds of accountability, keeping up the word in a different way.
Fear Bird: Can know within, it did not keep up the word. " Ya, I could not understand s/w", opened up to love bird.
Love Bird: Known for its untiring efforts, it gives more details, how to learn .
Fear Bird:"Thank u so much. Its very helpful , I will do it", its filled with love birds energy, it thought its easy can do it. But after sometime all the spirits drain out.
Love Bird: "Sure. Take your time".
and this saga goes on and on from one week to one month to one year and time flies by.
One day again ,
Love Bird:"I remembered u say I choose love, but YOU REALLY DID NOT CHOOSE LOVE".
Fear Bird:IT STRIKES and one last time it says " I will see you with the song".
There is a change here and this time its REAL. Fear bird makes a better choice.  The voice from within is heard. The mistakes or the attitude is shown and known.  It makes up its mind to keep up the word, realizes love bird's true love. It feels ashamed of itself for how it has reciprocated to love bird's love. Tears rolls down . But it has got hope as it really meant this time, when it uttered " I will see you with the song".
From fear, it was changed,now ITS LOVE at the other end also.
The moment , love was chosen, there was light, there was way, there was focus, the same Greek and Latin meant sense, it was understandable, there was fire. No reminder was needed. In spite of all the other busy daily schedules, it was more important. It could make time and do whatever it takes. What was not understandable for more than year was learnt in one hour.
And not to mention, when both the birds met, fear bird shared the song that was made with love for love, there was showers of love and both were immersed in love.
This incident is engraved as one of landmarks in their journey together.
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And to tell you, it is one of my own fears, that I could overcome with the power of love, that I was showered with. The conversation was the battle happened in my mind, where both positivity and negativity had to face off each other and finally with patience, positivity won the battle.

Its learnt that, its not the efficiency that was missing, it was because of  the attitude, it was the habit of procrastinating, the domination of negativity.
Its a great learning that love is so powerful and it always wins with patience.

Love heals and makes us alive ,   Fear hurts and makes us numb
Love strengthens ,  Fear weakens
Love forgives , Fear accuses, condemns, blames
Love shows the way, Fear blocks the way
Love is selfless, Fear is selfish
Love bears pains, Fear does not bear and it gives back.
Love expands, Fear shrinks
Love motivates and inspires , Fear retards, dissuades
Love can reach from miles away irrespective of physical presence, Fear can disconnect despite  the physical presence.

To choose not to choose is still a choice for which you alone are responsible.” 

― Gary Cox, How to Be an Existentialist: or How to Get Real, Get a Grip and Stop Making Excuses

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience.

Having experienced both love and fear, having seen both constructive and destructive energies, I choose to connect, reach, respect, support, honor and I CHOOSE LOVE .Its a constant reminder " to choose" from the choices available.

I choose to make myself better, gradually and keep walking on the path and reach YOU, Oh..
I dedicate this to YOU , Oh, who made me realize TRUE LOVE.